DOMESTIC VIOLENCE (DV), RELATIONSHIP VIOLENCE, INTIMATE PARTNER VIOLENCE (IPV)
Domestic Violence/Intimate Partner Violence isn’t just when a crime has been committed in the form of physical or sexual assault within the context of a relationship. It isn’t just when one party intentionally controls, manipulates, and dominates through verbal or physical abuse or intimidation. It happens each and every time one partner intentionally or unintentionally forces his or her way onto the other partner through temper tantrums, snide, sarcastic, and belittling remarks, quelling looks of anger and disapproval, threatens to leave or kick the other partner out, threatens to kill or harm themselves or others if they don’t get what they want, or says things that leverages the children against the other. It may seem to be a small issue, at first. Apologies, gifts, and special events may be offered to soothe the hurt feelings. However, eventually, sometimes immediately, there begins a new rise in tension, which culminates in another explosion: verbal, physical, sexual, and/or emotional. The less dominant partner may feel the need to take care of the other partner’s emotions and manage how others view the dominant partner. Children in the home may start experiencing acting out behaviors and emotional disturbances of their own. Depression may begin or worsen. Physical symptoms of pain and fatigue, gastrointestional disruption, headaches, sleep disruptions may manifest.
Even if no crime has been committed, living in an environment where there is continual or constant tension and conflict between adult family members, is still living in a form of domestic violence or intimate partner violence.
In Portland, OR
- The Gateway Center for Domestic Violence Services
- Home Free, Volunteers of America, Child/Youth and Family Services
- Abuse Recovery Ministry and Services (ARMS)
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Emotional and mental health issues can be triggered by and caused by any number of things a person experiences in their life, from infancy through adulthood. There may be genetic factors which could predispose a person to experience a biochemical or neurochemical imbalance. Familial and environmental patterns of behavior, relationship dynamics, or traumatic events can disrupt the psycho-social development. Any of these things can affect cognitive development and functioning which can result in relationship difficulties, impair an individual’s ability to care for themselves or others in healthy and constructive ways, and/or result in abusive and harmful behaviors toward self and others. Those who have experienced the trauma of abuse: verbal, physical, sexual, mental, emotional, spiritual, especially as children, are at risk for developing mental health issues and disorders. People who have been in war zones, seen or participated in combat, or in traumatic, life-threatening events are at risk. People who have battled long-term, chronic or terminal illnesses and their caregivers are at risk. The fact of the matter is, every single person alive, is at risk for developing, or is already experiencing, a mental health disorder or illness. Help and hope for healing is possible only once the person experiencing the problem feels safe enough to admit the problem and seek help.
In Portland, OR